I have an opinion on this great topic :)
I accept that a blog post is an opportunity to stand on a any topic of your choice and bato gyan on it, and you don't have to worry about any nerdy questions shot by the people.
This topic has been through ages and this is my attempt to unfold it and I'm going to use this opportunity to speak on a topic that is near to the heart of many people around me and away.
Why is it so difficult to find the right person to love?
Firstly, people look in the wrong places for it. This is not intended as a slight on the good work that platforms like this represents. To prove that this is not my intention I will say that opportunities for love exist at every point that humans interact.All I am saying is let this not be the only place like facebook,orkut or twitter guys grow up ;)
Secondly,what are the expectations of people looking for love? Often we are dishonest with what we expect our suitors to look like, earn like, own like, dress like etc. Most people would say that we are looking for kind, honest, committed people. If this were the only criteria I will guarantee you that in your village, place of employment or even the closest bus stop there are many, many viable candidates. If truth be known we are not true to our desires. Blame it on evolution or survivalist tendencies. Reconsider what it is you really, really want. Chances are you are looking for warmth and acceptance, a place where you can grow emotionally and spiritually. Look through different eyes.
Third, we are still trapped by childhood fantasies of the ideal partner. The blond bombshell syndrome. Beauty is to be found in many forms. I will go so far as to say that beauty is found in every physical form. It is often only when we perceive what lies beyond the physical that we experience a lack of beauty.
Fourth, we don't believe in our own beauty and worth. Pause for a moment and consider your most attractive qualities. Don't believe the malicious judgments passed on you over the course of your life. You are beautiful. You are beautiful to someone in this universe ... but only when you become beautiful to yourself again.
Fifth, there is no hurry. Enjoy every moment of single living for what it is - an opportunity to know and love yourself. You might never get this opportunity for a very long time again.
Six, always listen to the heart. It never lies. It tells you all the truth you need to know. Is the person kind and good and tender? These are the heart's questions.
As one author have said..
Several hundred years ago, lightening wasn't understood the way it is today. All people knew was that . . . well, for some strange reason, huge bolts of powerful fire would blast down from the sky, randomly, for no apparent reason, and absolutely incinerate whatever random thing it hit.
Kind of like the way "love" is often seen nowadays: it's very powerful, it's completely random and unpredictable, it's mysterious, and when it "strikes" - more often than not - it does a lot of damage.
I will end this blog with famous lines from a writer Friedrich Nietzsche
"Blessed are the forgetful: for they get the better even of their blunders."
I accept that a blog post is an opportunity to stand on a any topic of your choice and bato gyan on it, and you don't have to worry about any nerdy questions shot by the people.
This topic has been through ages and this is my attempt to unfold it and I'm going to use this opportunity to speak on a topic that is near to the heart of many people around me and away.
Why is it so difficult to find the right person to love?
Firstly, people look in the wrong places for it. This is not intended as a slight on the good work that platforms like this represents. To prove that this is not my intention I will say that opportunities for love exist at every point that humans interact.All I am saying is let this not be the only place like facebook,orkut or twitter guys grow up ;)
Secondly,what are the expectations of people looking for love? Often we are dishonest with what we expect our suitors to look like, earn like, own like, dress like etc. Most people would say that we are looking for kind, honest, committed people. If this were the only criteria I will guarantee you that in your village, place of employment or even the closest bus stop there are many, many viable candidates. If truth be known we are not true to our desires. Blame it on evolution or survivalist tendencies. Reconsider what it is you really, really want. Chances are you are looking for warmth and acceptance, a place where you can grow emotionally and spiritually. Look through different eyes.
Third, we are still trapped by childhood fantasies of the ideal partner. The blond bombshell syndrome. Beauty is to be found in many forms. I will go so far as to say that beauty is found in every physical form. It is often only when we perceive what lies beyond the physical that we experience a lack of beauty.
Fourth, we don't believe in our own beauty and worth. Pause for a moment and consider your most attractive qualities. Don't believe the malicious judgments passed on you over the course of your life. You are beautiful. You are beautiful to someone in this universe ... but only when you become beautiful to yourself again.
Fifth, there is no hurry. Enjoy every moment of single living for what it is - an opportunity to know and love yourself. You might never get this opportunity for a very long time again.
Six, always listen to the heart. It never lies. It tells you all the truth you need to know. Is the person kind and good and tender? These are the heart's questions.
As one author have said..
Several hundred years ago, lightening wasn't understood the way it is today. All people knew was that . . . well, for some strange reason, huge bolts of powerful fire would blast down from the sky, randomly, for no apparent reason, and absolutely incinerate whatever random thing it hit.
Kind of like the way "love" is often seen nowadays: it's very powerful, it's completely random and unpredictable, it's mysterious, and when it "strikes" - more often than not - it does a lot of damage.
I will end this blog with famous lines from a writer Friedrich Nietzsche
"Blessed are the forgetful: for they get the better even of their blunders."
