I just saw "Jhoota hi Sahi" Hindi movie this weekend, a good movie circling around the biggest problem about youth suicide.
The only point where it got my attention was the scene where actress named in movie "Mishka" calls john and tells him she is gonna kill her self when they are strangers and dont know each others and john is supposed to the help line for the suicide cases.
John tells her to just be on phone and not to speak of a single word;because she is all choked up.
John understands if she talks actress will burst out of and may take the extreme step.
Now they are on the phone the whole night and what john asks every hour or so is "Are you there ? just be with me on phone" he dose a lot of stuff to be awake the whole night
just to save one life.
In the morning she is fast a sleep with the bottle thrown away ...yes on phone she slept and in the morning everything was all rite.. john is still holding the phone...
When she gets up and checks he says "Good morning .. and how are you feeling now ?" and she is very happy that he has helped her to bring out from that dark night to a
beautiful new morning light, a real life savior.
I loved this whole sequence really well , It made me think how fragile we are at bottom of the heart with 6,697,254,041 as our World population not a single person who understands you ???
How we get frightened for small things,places&people.
what is that something which connects you with others?
What is more important being on phone ? or just a feeling that someone cares?
may be some ones cares gets voted ...
One time we are this very fearless people and some other times softer than a piece of chocolate cake , why would be the next obvious question which needs a answer.
The only message I want to say is give your friends a ear whenever they need it , don't leave them alone wondering till the time they take any wrong step, every one loves to be heard.
Drop your egos and talk to them without any prejudice,be the change you want to see in the world.
Dont take life so seriously ,no one gets out alive :)
-Kushal.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
007 Bungee Jump Verzasca , Switzerland
Software engg's are a bag of things that dose nothing than moving from one meeting room to another giving updates or receiving ,if you don't move this bag physically
this bag will start inflating every day , back ache , neck,spinal chord surgeries are as common as "Katrina kaif" for boys :)I committed to my self that I shall do a adventure activity once every year to keep me away from the sluggish software lifestyle and this virus entering my blood.This year I was counting on "HMI Hindustan Mountanering institute" the best mountaineering institute in south east asia;himalayas base camp expedition at 6153 mts.I had finished my shopping already warm hat,scarf woolen,woolen socks,trekking boots,shades,torch,writing material,nail cutter,needle,cap,pen knife and gloves :) some odd 24 items.Everything was set and I had prepared myself for the trek mentally and physically , Destiny however as we say had somegthing different written for me it was something like this,I should pack my bags and leave for Italy for a business visit along with my manager and 4 of my teammates Mithlesh ,Ashutosh,Bharat and Sumesh.First thing that came to mind....."WTF!!!" (Whats That For) on top of it I had planned this trek last year in order to go for trek I had not taken any leaves so that I could go on a months vacation to Himalayas.This news fell on me like a meteor would fall on a unprepared earth..it took me some time to assimilate this,on one side I had a himalyan expedition on the other I had a business trip to Italy.I did Trek on regular basis,Enduro race(a tri athlon race),Para gliding,Para jumping,Himalyas trek,Cycle hike to Switzerland border from Italy along with Armando and many more.After all this mehnat now was the turn to learn it professionaly going to the best mountaineering institute,I should better come up with some good freaking reason as to why I should cancel my vacation just for going abroad.
Bungee jump (also spelled "Bungy") is an activity that involves jumping from a tall structure while connected to a large elastic cord.
The tall structure is usually a fixed object, such as a buildingd, bridge or crane; but it is also possible to jump from a movable object, such as a hot-air-balloon or
helicopter, that has the ability to hover above the ground. The thrill comes as much from the free-falling as from the rebounds.
When the person jumps, the cord stretches and the jumper flies upwards again as the cord snaps back, and continues to oscillate up and down until all the energy is dissipated.
While scrolling through me friends photographs I thought Can it be labeled the adventure for me this year ? I mean instead of Mountaineering y nt bungy?
I started with a small operation of collecting information about this bungee jump.
First googled the names of the institute,blogs,forums,wiki's,magazines every nook and corner of the net which spelled "Bungy"
moreover my engg skills helped me understand the technicality of the subject such as
Polymers used for the rope , stress & Strain on rope,standered procedures of testing,the effect of 'g' the force of gravitation on the bungee jumper.
After all this "Gyan prapti" on this subject I was ready (theoretically) for the jump because all this study concluded I had less chances of killing myself in a bungy jump
than driving a motorcycle in Pune from Karve road to kothrud :)
some intresting facts surfaced on my analysis
1.25 years of operations and not a single accident for this institute.
2.After every 4 jumps the rope was changed (keeping my finger crossed that I should not be that 4th person)
3.I was going to pay them a whopping 230 Euros for the jump around 14500 INR.
I called up my friend and after talking to her gathered a lot of courage as she had already done bungee jump in Switzerland last year.
Yes,I did register my self to pursue my passion of bungee,
also to add under my belt the glory of jumping from the same dam where BOND ...JAMES BOND jumped in the epic movie Golden Eye.
All set in my mind ready for the bungee jump my visa's got approved and arrived at Italy , I was more confident this time around as I had visited this place before , felt like home :)
,the land of love I must say , every person has a passion in his life apart from doing his regular work they love to a parallel sport in their life
some do scuba diving,table tennis,karate,cycling they follow it judiciously.
After my visa got approved I told Armando about my bungee jump,knowing that I will be leaving alone for the jump,he shall accompany me to switzerland by his car ,
That was the kind gesture shown by Armando towards me and was really happy that he will be a part of my adventure to share my fear,scare,craziness and most important happiness.
Armando the man with a unstoppable cycling mileage on his credit, aged in his fare 50's was my counterpart in Italy my team member , my friend ,my father like person .
biggest fan of cycling cycled whooping 1,76,576 Km's till date and counting ,took cycle as a gift from his father instead of motorcycle and continued cycling till date.
Best combination of technical and athletic qualities , a gem of a personality . I am a big fan of him !!! (Many would also be listed on his Fans list)
I never knew there existed a "Schengen Agreement" or ye kis chidya ka naam hain untill I found out it would force me not to jump in switzerland.
The "Schengen Agreement" is a treaty signed on 14 June 1985 near the town of Schengen in Luxembourg, between five of the ten member states of the European Economic Community.
This treaty created Europe as a borderless Schengen Area.Which means if you hold a schengen visa you are allowed to move in any country as this falls under schengen agreement.
hysterically switzerland was not the part of schengen agreement and joined in as late in border less schengen area as late as December 2009.
However on groud realities many said I would not be allowed to enter the switzerland borders,they told me stories of how they were held at swiz borders and were asked to pay a heavy amount of money.
I was really pissed off by this whatever agreement, Armando took a lead in this and called the swiz consulate and asked if the visa was valid in switzerland ? and they said Yes.
But the opinion and counter opinion never stopped my team still debated if this communication has be ever conveyed to border security guards.
Some scary stories that while returning from switzerland they will take all my belongings and I can be sent to jail for crossing the border without legal documents.
The only thing which kept me intact was the patience at which Armando was accepting all this views and just keeping quite.
All this events had already started the thinking process in me of not jumping and their came Maria Angela in the evening for the party.
Maria angela Aramandos wife to me a mother like person. She came to know that armando and me are traveling to switzerland for the jump.
she is just like any other mother who worries a lot , and asks and tries to convince you till the last ....I learned one thing for sure in all this any where in the world MOTHER is always a mother she is universal...
and they have got this amazing convincing powers...And yes,she succeed in convincing me , Yes you heard quite well and clear I was convinced I will not jum
p the next day.
We (Maria) decided to allow us to roam in switzerland as planned , and visit places and come back safely in single piece.
While I was returing back from the party to my hotel there came a voice from Armando ,the only time he spoke to me about Bunjee jump.
He said "Do you want to do it ?"
I said "Yes , but...." (scared,nervous and full of doubts)
He said "Lets do it... together , we are "The Jumping Team" you as a jumper and me as a instructor.
The only man who believed in my abilities to do the jump.
Next day We reached the destination "verzasca dam" , we stopped at a road which was parallel to the dam and gave exactly the complete view of the dam.
When I saw that I thought please google guys develop some tool so that we can understand the height of the dam sitting in our homes.
This was a monstrous 220 mt. huge concrete dam which was concave in shape ,mounted on it was a big instrument and a single rope and that's it nothing at all.
When we reached on top of the dam I could see the raw stones from above not a single drop of water,and other side filled with water and ofcourse I was jumping on the rocky part.
Armando looked at the bottom of the dam and looked at me and started giving me a strange smile.
I knew what he meant "Are you serious?" can you jump this deep ? and my face told him everything. hell "NO"
My mind started building some theories such as it would have been lot simpler if there would have been some water , at least you would have some cushion,I reasoned my self :)
Of their 25 years of successful jump and not a single accident I should not be the only case . It was crystal clear if there is .009% error & no chances of survival if you fall from that height.
Mera to tomato ketchup ho jayega...
To keep the moral of the people high they had just turned on the rock music to suppress the fear of people, the over all environment started lighting up when people started the jumps one after the other.
In no time atmosphere got more cold,a cold breeze with mixture of slow drizzling started ,adding more beauty to beautiful Switzerland , I always have loved the rains may be this was good luck charm for me , approval from nature to go ahead with the jump :)
However every time I looked down the dam every single positive signal disappeared instantaneously.
The average time to reach the bottom of the rope length free falling was 7.2 seconds.
A beautiful lady instructor came in for the teaching me safety drill on the ground before you go for the actual jump , she told me once and understood it all.(I was quite surprised by the enormous grasping power of my mind , which was hidden all these years)
I mean I wondered the attention I gave to every bit and piece of the instrument & its operation pulleys,harness,knots,hand gestures in case of problems, ready signal to lift ...and thousand more instructions which were new to my brain however it digested every bit with 100% efficiency :)
My turn came for the jump to the podium from where I was to jump, two safety professionals gave me instruction as to how to jump what to expect in few seconds of the jump , raising the distress signals in case of any problems I would face after the jump for speedy recovery of me.
They also insisted that the jump would be all mine , if I did not jump in 5 minutes i would be givin a 3 hours rest to get acclimatize to the environment and then given a chance to jump again and If I did not jump the second time there would be no jump for me that day.
base line I will have to jump on my own
I stepped up and armando clicking as many photos of me as possible to a extend that he litterally filled up the digital camera ...yes he was nervous I guess the only thing he has to do was to click in enthusiasm/anxiety he clicked a lot of pic's of my at vertually the same postions from different angels ;)
However i do not blame him for that the place was full of energy & enthusiasm.
I stood on podium ,balanced my self on my toes ,looked through the railing of the jumping podium it was only made of some steel rods arranged as a net I could feel the cold breeze of air that was hitting from below through my feet ,straight on to my face scattering my hair,
looked straight into the alps when the instructor started the count 1... 2..... Now came in front of my eyes all people's faces who were directly or indirectly involved with jump, all the events way back from India's chai tapari till,HMI,manger,Visa,Schengen problem,stories of Jail,Convincing maria,my mom and my dad thought just came in like a slideshow running at a speed of 10000m/s:)
I was really amazed to see the speed of these thoughts crossing my mind.........3
Opened my hand,bent my knees,on my toes and gave a full throttle to leap straight forward to reach as far as I can from the podium in order to have dive into the 220mts of depth below, in the air free falling like a bird on my own,
In that moment nothing else mattered:
not the carrier, not the team , not my friends and not at all their bulls*&# , I was free.
For those 7.2 seconds or less, I was free.
free from this world on my own......with me;for me;only me.
Kept open my eyes and watched the beauty of life in a natural way,I felt the force of nature on my body while I was going down .. the stretched out hand were forced back to my sides , I was approaching ground with the acceleration of 9.8 m/s as we say in physics;the fall was a complete transformation in me ,from a doubtful person to a confident one.
After bouncing energy of the rope got died , I was hanging there with upside down watching the world from another perspective , watching people standing upside down :)
After I was back to the original world I gave a tight hug to Armando, The real excitement was "The Jumping Team" made it through ... We both were as excited as a 10 year kids .I could not believe myself I did the jump quite the professional way.
Armando was filled with joy, charged and excited watching the jump live.
Unfortunately the joy,excitement,glory,happiness of the bungee jump can not be confined in words that is just feeling which can be experienced and not told.
Mr M.K.Gandhi rightly said
“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
Some might still be of the opinion it was a mistake to make a jump , but guess what "I don't"
I figured out falling is the best thing in life ... it clears all your doubts ,and brings you closer to yourself.
I did my fall of 220 mt,and rediscovered myself.... what about you ?
-Kushal.
this bag will start inflating every day , back ache , neck,spinal chord surgeries are as common as "Katrina kaif" for boys :)I committed to my self that I shall do a adventure activity once every year to keep me away from the sluggish software lifestyle and this virus entering my blood.This year I was counting on "HMI Hindustan Mountanering institute" the best mountaineering institute in south east asia;himalayas base camp expedition at 6153 mts.I had finished my shopping already warm hat,scarf woolen,woolen socks,trekking boots,shades,torch,writing material,nail cutter,needle,cap,pen knife and gloves :) some odd 24 items.Everything was set and I had prepared myself for the trek mentally and physically , Destiny however as we say had somegthing different written for me it was something like this,I should pack my bags and leave for Italy for a business visit along with my manager and 4 of my teammates Mithlesh ,Ashutosh,Bharat and Sumesh.First thing that came to mind....."WTF!!!" (Whats That For) on top of it I had planned this trek last year in order to go for trek I had not taken any leaves so that I could go on a months vacation to Himalayas.This news fell on me like a meteor would fall on a unprepared earth..it took me some time to assimilate this,on one side I had a himalyan expedition on the other I had a business trip to Italy.I did Trek on regular basis,Enduro race(a tri athlon race),Para gliding,Para jumping,Himalyas trek,Cycle hike to Switzerland border from Italy along with Armando and many more.After all this mehnat now was the turn to learn it professionaly going to the best mountaineering institute,I should better come up with some good freaking reason as to why I should cancel my vacation just for going abroad.
Bungee jump (also spelled "Bungy") is an activity that involves jumping from a tall structure while connected to a large elastic cord.
The tall structure is usually a fixed object, such as a buildingd, bridge or crane; but it is also possible to jump from a movable object, such as a hot-air-balloon or
helicopter, that has the ability to hover above the ground. The thrill comes as much from the free-falling as from the rebounds.
When the person jumps, the cord stretches and the jumper flies upwards again as the cord snaps back, and continues to oscillate up and down until all the energy is dissipated.
While scrolling through me friends photographs I thought Can it be labeled the adventure for me this year ? I mean instead of Mountaineering y nt bungy?
I started with a small operation of collecting information about this bungee jump.
First googled the names of the institute,blogs,forums,wiki's,magazines every nook and corner of the net which spelled "Bungy"
moreover my engg skills helped me understand the technicality of the subject such as
Polymers used for the rope , stress & Strain on rope,standered procedures of testing,the effect of 'g' the force of gravitation on the bungee jumper.
After all this "Gyan prapti" on this subject I was ready (theoretically) for the jump because all this study concluded I had less chances of killing myself in a bungy jump
than driving a motorcycle in Pune from Karve road to kothrud :)
some intresting facts surfaced on my analysis
1.25 years of operations and not a single accident for this institute.
2.After every 4 jumps the rope was changed (keeping my finger crossed that I should not be that 4th person)
3.I was going to pay them a whopping 230 Euros for the jump around 14500 INR.
I called up my friend and after talking to her gathered a lot of courage as she had already done bungee jump in Switzerland last year.
Yes,I did register my self to pursue my passion of bungee,
also to add under my belt the glory of jumping from the same dam where BOND ...JAMES BOND jumped in the epic movie Golden Eye.
All set in my mind ready for the bungee jump my visa's got approved and arrived at Italy , I was more confident this time around as I had visited this place before , felt like home :)
,the land of love I must say , every person has a passion in his life apart from doing his regular work they love to a parallel sport in their life
some do scuba diving,table tennis,karate,cycling they follow it judiciously.
After my visa got approved I told Armando about my bungee jump,knowing that I will be leaving alone for the jump,he shall accompany me to switzerland by his car ,
That was the kind gesture shown by Armando towards me and was really happy that he will be a part of my adventure to share my fear,scare,craziness and most important happiness.
Armando the man with a unstoppable cycling mileage on his credit, aged in his fare 50's was my counterpart in Italy my team member , my friend ,my father like person .
biggest fan of cycling cycled whooping 1,76,576 Km's till date and counting ,took cycle as a gift from his father instead of motorcycle and continued cycling till date.
Best combination of technical and athletic qualities , a gem of a personality . I am a big fan of him !!! (Many would also be listed on his Fans list)
I never knew there existed a "Schengen Agreement" or ye kis chidya ka naam hain untill I found out it would force me not to jump in switzerland.
The "Schengen Agreement" is a treaty signed on 14 June 1985 near the town of Schengen in Luxembourg, between five of the ten member states of the European Economic Community.
This treaty created Europe as a borderless Schengen Area.Which means if you hold a schengen visa you are allowed to move in any country as this falls under schengen agreement.
hysterically switzerland was not the part of schengen agreement and joined in as late in border less schengen area as late as December 2009.
However on groud realities many said I would not be allowed to enter the switzerland borders,they told me stories of how they were held at swiz borders and were asked to pay a heavy amount of money.
I was really pissed off by this whatever agreement, Armando took a lead in this and called the swiz consulate and asked if the visa was valid in switzerland ? and they said Yes.
But the opinion and counter opinion never stopped my team still debated if this communication has be ever conveyed to border security guards.
Some scary stories that while returning from switzerland they will take all my belongings and I can be sent to jail for crossing the border without legal documents.
The only thing which kept me intact was the patience at which Armando was accepting all this views and just keeping quite.
All this events had already started the thinking process in me of not jumping and their came Maria Angela in the evening for the party.
Maria angela Aramandos wife to me a mother like person. She came to know that armando and me are traveling to switzerland for the jump.
she is just like any other mother who worries a lot , and asks and tries to convince you till the last ....I learned one thing for sure in all this any where in the world MOTHER is always a mother she is universal...
and they have got this amazing convincing powers...And yes,she succeed in convincing me , Yes you heard quite well and clear I was convinced I will not jum
p the next day.We (Maria) decided to allow us to roam in switzerland as planned , and visit places and come back safely in single piece.
While I was returing back from the party to my hotel there came a voice from Armando ,the only time he spoke to me about Bunjee jump.
He said "Do you want to do it ?"
I said "Yes , but...." (scared,nervous and full of doubts)
He said "Lets do it... together , we are "The Jumping Team" you as a jumper and me as a instructor.
The only man who believed in my abilities to do the jump.
Next day We reached the destination "verzasca dam" , we stopped at a road which was parallel to the dam and gave exactly the complete view of the dam.
When I saw that I thought please google guys develop some tool so that we can understand the height of the dam sitting in our homes.
This was a monstrous 220 mt. huge concrete dam which was concave in shape ,mounted on it was a big instrument and a single rope and that's it nothing at all.
When we reached on top of the dam I could see the raw stones from above not a single drop of water,and other side filled with water and ofcourse I was jumping on the rocky part.
Armando looked at the bottom of the dam and looked at me and started giving me a strange smile.
I knew what he meant "Are you serious?" can you jump this deep ? and my face told him everything. hell "NO"
My mind started building some theories such as it would have been lot simpler if there would have been some water , at least you would have some cushion,I reasoned my self :)
Of their 25 years of successful jump and not a single accident I should not be the only case . It was crystal clear if there is .009% error & no chances of survival if you fall from that height.
Mera to tomato ketchup ho jayega...
To keep the moral of the people high they had just turned on the rock music to suppress the fear of people, the over all environment started lighting up when people started the jumps one after the other.
In no time atmosphere got more cold,a cold breeze with mixture of slow drizzling started ,adding more beauty to beautiful Switzerland , I always have loved the rains may be this was good luck charm for me , approval from nature to go ahead with the jump :)
However every time I looked down the dam every single positive signal disappeared instantaneously.
The average time to reach the bottom of the rope length free falling was 7.2 seconds.
A beautiful lady instructor came in for the teaching me safety drill on the ground before you go for the actual jump , she told me once and understood it all.(I was quite surprised by the enormous grasping power of my mind , which was hidden all these years)
I mean I wondered the attention I gave to every bit and piece of the instrument & its operation pulleys,harness,knots,hand gestures in case of problems, ready signal to lift ...and thousand more instructions which were new to my brain however it digested every bit with 100% efficiency :)
My turn came for the jump to the podium from where I was to jump, two safety professionals gave me instruction as to how to jump what to expect in few seconds of the jump , raising the distress signals in case of any problems I would face after the jump for speedy recovery of me.
They also insisted that the jump would be all mine , if I did not jump in 5 minutes i would be givin a 3 hours rest to get acclimatize to the environment and then given a chance to jump again and If I did not jump the second time there would be no jump for me that day.
base line I will have to jump on my own
I stepped up and armando clicking as many photos of me as possible to a extend that he litterally filled up the digital camera ...yes he was nervous I guess the only thing he has to do was to click in enthusiasm/anxiety he clicked a lot of pic's of my at vertually the same postions from different angels ;)
However i do not blame him for that the place was full of energy & enthusiasm.
I stood on podium ,balanced my self on my toes ,looked through the railing of the jumping podium it was only made of some steel rods arranged as a net I could feel the cold breeze of air that was hitting from below through my feet ,straight on to my face scattering my hair,
looked straight into the alps when the instructor started the count 1... 2..... Now came in front of my eyes all people's faces who were directly or indirectly involved with jump, all the events way back from India's chai tapari till,HMI,manger,Visa,Schengen problem,stories of Jail,Convincing maria,my mom and my dad thought just came in like a slideshow running at a speed of 10000m/s:)
I was really amazed to see the speed of these thoughts crossing my mind.........3
Opened my hand,bent my knees,on my toes and gave a full throttle to leap straight forward to reach as far as I can from the podium in order to have dive into the 220mts of depth below, in the air free falling like a bird on my own,
In that moment nothing else mattered:
not the carrier, not the team , not my friends and not at all their bulls*&# , I was free.
For those 7.2 seconds or less, I was free.
free from this world on my own......with me;for me;only me.
Kept open my eyes and watched the beauty of life in a natural way,I felt the force of nature on my body while I was going down .. the stretched out hand were forced back to my sides , I was approaching ground with the acceleration of 9.8 m/s as we say in physics;the fall was a complete transformation in me ,from a doubtful person to a confident one.
After bouncing energy of the rope got died , I was hanging there with upside down watching the world from another perspective , watching people standing upside down :)
After I was back to the original world I gave a tight hug to Armando, The real excitement was "The Jumping Team" made it through ... We both were as excited as a 10 year kids .I could not believe myself I did the jump quite the professional way.
Armando was filled with joy, charged and excited watching the jump live.
Unfortunately the joy,excitement,glory,happiness of the bungee jump can not be confined in words that is just feeling which can be experienced and not told.
Mr M.K.Gandhi rightly said
“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
Some might still be of the opinion it was a mistake to make a jump , but guess what "I don't"
I figured out falling is the best thing in life ... it clears all your doubts ,and brings you closer to yourself.
I did my fall of 220 mt,and rediscovered myself.... what about you ?
-Kushal.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Searching for love ???
I have an opinion on this great topic :)
I accept that a blog post is an opportunity to stand on a any topic of your choice and bato gyan on it, and you don't have to worry about any nerdy questions shot by the people.
This topic has been through ages and this is my attempt to unfold it and I'm going to use this opportunity to speak on a topic that is near to the heart of many people around me and away.
Why is it so difficult to find the right person to love?
Firstly, people look in the wrong places for it. This is not intended as a slight on the good work that platforms like this represents. To prove that this is not my intention I will say that opportunities for love exist at every point that humans interact.All I am saying is let this not be the only place like facebook,orkut or twitter guys grow up ;)
Secondly,what are the expectations of people looking for love? Often we are dishonest with what we expect our suitors to look like, earn like, own like, dress like etc. Most people would say that we are looking for kind, honest, committed people. If this were the only criteria I will guarantee you that in your village, place of employment or even the closest bus stop there are many, many viable candidates. If truth be known we are not true to our desires. Blame it on evolution or survivalist tendencies. Reconsider what it is you really, really want. Chances are you are looking for warmth and acceptance, a place where you can grow emotionally and spiritually. Look through different eyes.
Third, we are still trapped by childhood fantasies of the ideal partner. The blond bombshell syndrome. Beauty is to be found in many forms. I will go so far as to say that beauty is found in every physical form. It is often only when we perceive what lies beyond the physical that we experience a lack of beauty.
Fourth, we don't believe in our own beauty and worth. Pause for a moment and consider your most attractive qualities. Don't believe the malicious judgments passed on you over the course of your life. You are beautiful. You are beautiful to someone in this universe ... but only when you become beautiful to yourself again.
Fifth, there is no hurry. Enjoy every moment of single living for what it is - an opportunity to know and love yourself. You might never get this opportunity for a very long time again.
Six, always listen to the heart. It never lies. It tells you all the truth you need to know. Is the person kind and good and tender? These are the heart's questions.
As one author have said..
Several hundred years ago, lightening wasn't understood the way it is today. All people knew was that . . . well, for some strange reason, huge bolts of powerful fire would blast down from the sky, randomly, for no apparent reason, and absolutely incinerate whatever random thing it hit.
Kind of like the way "love" is often seen nowadays: it's very powerful, it's completely random and unpredictable, it's mysterious, and when it "strikes" - more often than not - it does a lot of damage.
I will end this blog with famous lines from a writer Friedrich Nietzsche
"Blessed are the forgetful: for they get the better even of their blunders."
I accept that a blog post is an opportunity to stand on a any topic of your choice and bato gyan on it, and you don't have to worry about any nerdy questions shot by the people.
This topic has been through ages and this is my attempt to unfold it and I'm going to use this opportunity to speak on a topic that is near to the heart of many people around me and away.
Why is it so difficult to find the right person to love?
Firstly, people look in the wrong places for it. This is not intended as a slight on the good work that platforms like this represents. To prove that this is not my intention I will say that opportunities for love exist at every point that humans interact.All I am saying is let this not be the only place like facebook,orkut or twitter guys grow up ;)
Secondly,what are the expectations of people looking for love? Often we are dishonest with what we expect our suitors to look like, earn like, own like, dress like etc. Most people would say that we are looking for kind, honest, committed people. If this were the only criteria I will guarantee you that in your village, place of employment or even the closest bus stop there are many, many viable candidates. If truth be known we are not true to our desires. Blame it on evolution or survivalist tendencies. Reconsider what it is you really, really want. Chances are you are looking for warmth and acceptance, a place where you can grow emotionally and spiritually. Look through different eyes.
Third, we are still trapped by childhood fantasies of the ideal partner. The blond bombshell syndrome. Beauty is to be found in many forms. I will go so far as to say that beauty is found in every physical form. It is often only when we perceive what lies beyond the physical that we experience a lack of beauty.
Fourth, we don't believe in our own beauty and worth. Pause for a moment and consider your most attractive qualities. Don't believe the malicious judgments passed on you over the course of your life. You are beautiful. You are beautiful to someone in this universe ... but only when you become beautiful to yourself again.
Fifth, there is no hurry. Enjoy every moment of single living for what it is - an opportunity to know and love yourself. You might never get this opportunity for a very long time again.
Six, always listen to the heart. It never lies. It tells you all the truth you need to know. Is the person kind and good and tender? These are the heart's questions.
As one author have said..
Several hundred years ago, lightening wasn't understood the way it is today. All people knew was that . . . well, for some strange reason, huge bolts of powerful fire would blast down from the sky, randomly, for no apparent reason, and absolutely incinerate whatever random thing it hit.
Kind of like the way "love" is often seen nowadays: it's very powerful, it's completely random and unpredictable, it's mysterious, and when it "strikes" - more often than not - it does a lot of damage.
I will end this blog with famous lines from a writer Friedrich Nietzsche
"Blessed are the forgetful: for they get the better even of their blunders."
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
जा जा जा दिले दिले मन तुला
कर त्याचे तू काही..काही... दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही...॥धृ॥
फुल मनाचे खुडून...दिले तुझिया हातात
ठेव ओंजळीत किंवा सोड काळाच्या नदीत
देठ पिकल्या फुलांना..देठ पिकल्या फुलांना...
भय निर्माल्याचे नाही
दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही... ॥१॥
जा जा जा दिले दिले मन तुला
कर त्याचे तू काही..काही... दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही...
तुला द्यावे मन.. असे काही कारण नव्हते...
एवढेच म्हणू आता, तुझ्या नशिबात होते..
पडे त्याच्या हाती दिवा..पडे त्याच्या हाती दिवा..
ज्याला दिसतच नाही
दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही... ॥२॥
जा जा जा दिले दिले मन तुला
कर त्याचे तू काही..काही... दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही...
मनाविण जगताना, वाटे मलाही बरेच
आता दुःख-बिख नाही..वाटे आश्चर्य सखेद
मला एक मन भारी..मला एक मन भारी..
तुला दोन्ही जड नाही..
दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही... ॥३॥
जा जा जा दिले दिले मन तुला
कर त्याचे तू काही..काही... दिले दान पुन्हा घेणे माझ्या स्वभावात नाही...
---संदीप खरे
Monday, March 29, 2010
मैत्रीण माझी हट्टी गं उन्हाळ्याची सुट्टी गं
सांगली मधून engineering संपून मी पुण्याला नौकरी ला लागलो , मी "हुशार" ( सर्व toper लोकांची माफी मागून हा "हुशार " शब्द मी वापरत आहे ) असल्या मुले मला 3rd year मधेच 2 आणि final year मध्ये 1 आश्या 3 कंपनी कढून ऑफर होती . मी पुण्यातालीच कंपनी chose केली , खूप साऱ्या कारणान पैकी एक कारण म्हणजे माझा ट्रेककिंग करण्याचा छंद इथे जोपासण्यासाठी full scope होता आणि तो दर वीकेंड ला साजरा पण करता येत होता .शुक्रवारी रात्री आम्ही ट्रेक ला जायचो , आणि रात्रीचा ट्रेक म्हंटले कि मुली सर्वात पुढे , women empowerment ह्यालाच तर खऱ्या अर्थाने म्हणता येईल 
रात्री ट्रेक करण्याची थ्रिल काही वेगळीच असते , सगळे झोपल्या नंतर आम्ही शिवाजीचे मावळे आणि त्या मावलीनी गड जिंकण्यासाठी निघायचो , तो संथ असा वारा , मोकळे आकाश , त्या आभाळातल्या सुंदर दिसणाऱ्या चांदण्या आणि त्यांच्या सर्वान मध्ये तो एकटाच कोरलेला चंद्र हे सौंदर्य लवकर झोपनार्यांच्या नशिबी कशे येणार हो ????? असो त्यांचे नशीब त्यांच्या सोबत 
रात्री ट्रेक करत असताना झालेले विनोद , सगळयान त्रास होताना सुद्धा काही विनोदामुळे सगळ्या group चे मनोबल वाढणे ... बर पुढचीच टेकडी तिथ आपण थांबू अशी खोटी आश्वासने देऊन पोरीना धीर देणे हा सगळा नित्य नियमाचा कार्यक्रम चालू असतो . घामाघूम होऊवून वर पोहोंचल्यावर ती झुणका भाकर ,कांदा आणि लोणचं भुकेल्या पोटाला जो स्वाद देउन जाते त्याची तुलना ताज हॉटेल मधल्या जेवणाला सुद्धा नाही .ह्याचा अर्थ मी ताज मध्ये जेवलो आहे असा होत नाही. ;) मीठ तिखट आंबट भाजी आळणी झाली , आश्या काही complains नसतात , कित्ती भारी पेक्षा पोट भर खाण्याचे महत्व असते .
माझे ट्रेककिंग चा प्रेम दिवसेन दिवस वाढत चालेले होते. पण आमच्या क्लासच्या group ला ट्रेककिंग ची सवय नव्हती आणि क्लास मधला आमचा group नुकताच IT कंपनी मध्ये लागला होता त्या मुळे शनिवार आणि रविवार सर्वांकडेच मोकळा असायचा .
"आम्ही पण ट्रेक करू " हा त्यांचा हट्ट होता पण ह्या सगळ्यांनी ट्रेककिंग कधीच केले नव्हते कॉलेज ते घर scooty वर येणाऱ्या ह्या पोरींना आणि पोरांना ट्रेक झेपेल का नाही हा प्रश्न माझ्या समोर होता , सगळा विचार करून आम्ही सिंहगडावर स्वारी करण्याचे ठरवले . ठरल्या प्रमाणे आम्ही सकाळी ५.३० चा सुमारास एक मित्राच्या रूम वर भेटलो तिथे गाड्या ठेवल्या आणि टवेरा मध्ये बसून सिंहगडच्या पायथ्याशी पोहोंचलो ... खरे तर ह्याचे मला फार दुख होत होते कि आपण सिंहगड नचढता गाडी मध्ये बसून आलो पण ह्या group ला ते झेपले नसते हे त्यांनी पायऱ्या चढतानाच दर्शविले.
आम्ही सिंहगड ट्रेक केला हे त्यांच्या मनातील गैरसमज मला दूर करण्याची काहीच इच्छा नव्हती त्या मुळे मी गप्पच होतो , कारण सिंहगड च्या top ला गाडी नेवून काही पायऱ्या चढणे म्हणजे ट्रेक नव्हे ;) त्यात माझी एक मैत्रिण "अतिम्सा" बेंगाली होती . कॉलेज मध्ये कशी , कधी आणि कुठून आली त्यासाठी वेगळा एक article लिहावे लागेल ती आमच्या group मध्ये सगळ्यात जास्त भाव खाणारी पोरगी , नाकाच्या शेंड्यावर राग , म्हणजे साध्या भाषेत अगदी हट्टी आणि पूर्ण पणे बालीश ,कोणाचीच तिच्या समोर बोलायची हिम्मत होत नसे .
थोडक्यात म्हणजे पूर्णपणे "atitude - धारी " Jasa hanuman "gadha - धारी " tashi ti "attitude - धारी " , जसे श्रीराम भक्त हनुमानानी आपल्या गदानि असुरांचा नाश केला तसेच हि आपल्या attitude नि सर्व मुलांचा नाश करयाची , ह्या कारणांमुळे मला कायम तिच्या मध्ये स्वयं हनुमान दिसायचे :) (ह्या नंतर मी जिवंत राहिलो तर पुढचा पोस्ट लिहीन )
आश्या ह्या "attitude - धारी " मुली समोर ट्रेक ला जाण्यापूर्वी मी एक चूक केली आणि तिला challenge केले कि "ट्रेक तेरे बस कि बात नहीं" ... आणि ती माझ्या जीवनातल्या असंख चुकान पैके एक मोठी चूक. तिने ते पूर्ण मनावर घेतले आणि अख्खा ट्रेक मला हे prove करत होती कि ट्रेक ती पण करू शकते.
बाकी सगळे मित्र आपण सिंहगडावर आलो ह्याचे पुरावे तयार करत होते , सर्वाना त्यांच्या कंपनी मधे show करन्यासाठी फोटो काढायला सुरु केले मग एखदा orkut pic , मग एखादा "friends forever" वाला pic ज्या मध्ये सगळे असतील मग group मधले favourite 2 , काही copuls , काही to be couples , काही undecided काही असेच नो couples .काही ब्रोकन couples , वगेरे वगेरे .
सगळ्यांनी खूप सारे फोटो काढल्या नंतर सिंहगड खरया अर्थाने explore करायचे असे आम्ही ठरवले म्हणजे अतिम्सा नि ठरवले , बाकी कोणाची मजल तिला नाहीं म्हणायची सिंहगडवर तर काय रोजच लोक येतात आपण आज सगळा सिंहगड चालून काढण्याचा प्रस्ताव तिने मांडला आणि तसेच ठरले आणि खरो खरच अतिम्सा सगळ्या group ला नाचवत होती आम्ही जेवढे फिरलो , तेवढ़े ते कधिच फिरले नसतील .
तुमच्या पैकी किती जणांना माहिती आहे माहिती नहीं सिंहगडला २ टोक आहेत आम्हाला एका टोकाला पोहंचायालाच दुपार झाली सगळे वैतागले होते मी सहज म्हंटले "आपण त्या दुसऱ्या टोकाला जाउ शकू का ?" सर्वांनी माझ्या कडे हा मुलगा वेडा झालाय आश्या नजरेने बघितले कारण सगळ्यांचा stamina संपला होता पहिल्याच ट्रेक मध्ये ते एवढे चालले कि सगळे म्हणत होते आता "नो मोरे ट्रेक" कदाचित मनातून मला चांगल्याचा शिव्या देत असतील आणि म्हणत असतील , काय गरज होती ह्या मुला सोबत येण्याची? , मस्त शनिवार झोपले असते , एखादा पुस्तक वाचले असते etc etc .... शिवाजी महाराज जेवढे सिंहगड जिंकण्याचा confidence बाळगत होते त्याच्या दुप्पट confidence बाकी सर्वान मध्ये built up झाला होता कश्यासाठी तर "ह्या पुढे आम्ही ट्रेक करणार नाही" या साठी.
त्या नंतर आम्ही सिंहगडावर जेवण केले मस्त झुणका भाकर , भज्जी आणि ती आंब्याची चटणी ह्या वर ते famous दही साखर वाह मज्जा आली होती अगदी ह्या stage पर्यंत आलो होतो कि baas आत्ता झोपायाचेच .
मुलींच्या डोक्यामध्ये कधी काय येईल हे देव सुद्धा सांगू शकत नाही , अतिम्सा ला सिंहगडाच्या दुसऱ्या टोकाला आत्ताच जायचे होते आणि त्या साठी एकही जन ह्या गोष्टीला ला तयार होणार नव्हता कारण खरो खर जेवण खूप झाले होते , तिने माझ्या कडे बघू नये म्हणून मी आडवा झालो होतो , मृत्यू कधी कोणाला विचारून येत नहीं तसे तिने मला येऊन विचारलं "चल आपण जाउया का ?" नाहीं म्हणालो असतो तर खूप काही ऐकावे लागले असते , वरून सगळ्यां समोर विचारल्या मुळे हो म्हणणे साहजिकच होते तिची एवढी बडबड ऐकून डोक्याला ताप करून घेण्या पेक्ष्या भर उन्हात पाय उचलणे अगदी सोपे होते ... ह्य आमच्या "attitude -धारी " कधीही कोणाचेच ऐकायची नाहीं ... मग एकदा ठरले म्हणजे ठरले mag no cheating.... पण मी आधीच तिच्या ओवर estimated प्लान ला , आपण जाउ असे आश्वासन देऊनि बसलो होतो .
थोड्या वेळातच आम्ही त्या दुसऱ्या अवघड आणि कधीच पोहन्चू शकणार नाहीं आश्या गडाकढे निघालो , बाकी लोकांना पण आमच्या साहसाचे कवतुक वाटत असावे atleat "काय daring आहे?" एवढे तरी ते अवघड नक्कीच होते . आंम्ही ते करणार का नाहीं ह्या दृष्टीकोनातून सगळे आमच्या मागे यायला लागले .... खूप चढ उतार होते आम्ही दोघे एकमेकांना आधार देऊन ते कडी कापारे खड्डे दगड गवत काश्यालाही धरून खाली आणि परत वर चढत होतो , खूप वेळ चालल्या नंतर आम्ही जेव्हा मागे वळून बघितले तेव्हा आम्हाला विश्वासच बसला नाहीं कि आजून खूप पार करायचे आहे आणि १/३ च रस्ता पार केलाय , आमच्या मागे येनारे सगळ्यांनी कधीच हाथ टेकले होते आणि आम्हाला call करून सांगितले कि आम्ही सगळे गाडीत जावून बसतोय तुम्ही तिथेच उतारा परत सिंहगड ला नका येवू आम्ही तिथेच येतो त्या पर्वताच्या पायथ्याशी .
वाट काही संपत नव्हती आणि तिचे सगळे विषय हि तेवढेच लांब , तेवढ्यात आम्हाला एक मेंढपाळ भेटला त्याने आम्हाला विचारले कोण तुम्ही ? कुठे चाललात ?
त्याला जेव्हा कळले आम्ही त्या डोंगरा कडे निघालोय त्याने खूप गोष्टी सांगितल्या आत्मा , भूत प्रेत , देवींच कोप , एका जोडप्याचा खून etc etc आणि सगळ्यात illogical statement म्हणजे "तिथे तर माझ्या बकरी सुद्धा चरायला जात नाहीं " WTF ??? बकरी चरायला जात नाहीं म्हणून ती जागा चांगली नाहीं .... ha ha ha LOL
आता फार हसू येतंय पण खरोखर त्याने अर्धा जीव खाल्ला होता आणि उरलेला अर्धा अतिम्सा ने डोंगरावरुन खाली वर् करून खाल्ला होता . however आम्ही दोघांनीही त्याला एक devil smile देऊन आम्ही तिकडे जाणारच आहोत असा सिग्नल दिला , तरीही मनात आत्ता खूप भीती निर्माण झाली होती ... कारण त्या पुढे खरोखर दोघेच तिथे होतो अगदी त्या direction नि वाट सुरु होण्या पासून ते संपे पर्यंत , आम्ही चालत होतो आणि तो कायम वाहणारा वारा सुद्धा थांबला होता. तिचा tape चालुच होता.
खूप सारे छोटे छोटे पहाड ओलांडून , घामाघूम होऊन आत्ता आम्ही त्या जागेवर पोहोंचलो होतो ...
त्या जागेवर एक खूप मोठा दगड होता किमान माझ्या hight पेक्षा ३ पट मोठा , एक छोटेशे देऊळ जिथे खूप दिवस दिवा लावला नव्हता , तो वारा पण आत्ता परत आला होता , सूर्याने आपले सगळे विराट रूप आवरायला सुरवात केली होती , अतिशय सुंदर असा तो नजारा होता आम्ही दोघांनीही दगडाला पाठ टेकून त्या कड्या वरून पाय खाली ठेऊन त्या मावळत्या सूर्याचे दर्शन घेण्याचे ठरवले , मी तिला सांगितले एक मस्त असा deep श्वास घे , येणाऱ्या थंड वाऱ्याची झुळूक तुझ्या चेहऱ्यावर घे , ते झाडांच्या पानांचे गीत ऐक आणि २ मिनटे शांत बस मग बघ कसे फ्रेश वाटते आम्ही तिथेच बसून होतो.
असे वाटले हे सगळे आमचा विजय सोहळा साजरा करायला जमले आहेत आणि हे सगळे असतानाही ती शांतता मंत्र मुग्ध करणारीच होती .
आम्ही पहिलेच वीर ज्यांनी हा गड जिंकला अशी स्वताची समजुत करून घेतली होती.
आत्ता मात्र इथे येण्यासाठी लागणारे सारे अडथळे आम्हाला काडी मात्र वाटत होते. ....ती कधीही न संपणारी वाट आत्ता तिथे बसून खूप भारी वाटत होती, तो मेंढपाळ , आमचे मित्र ज्यांनी प्रयत्न करूनही त्यांना इथे येता आले नाहीं , ह्या सर्व कारणान मुळे आम्ही फार खुश होतो.
तिथे आल्यावर ऑन top ऑफ the world वाटले , .
तिने कबूल ही केले एवढे भारी तिला कधीच वाटले नाहीं , मला ह्याचा आनंद होता कि माझ्या ह्या ट्रेककिंग च्या छदा मुळे मी तिच्या आयुष्यामध्ये एक आनंदाचा दिवस तिला देऊ शकलो ... नाहींतर कायम आमचा मुलगा नुसता फिरत असतोय पहाडी एवढेच ऐकले होते घराच्यां कढुन :)
तिने ट्रेक करत असताना खूप काही गोष्टी ऐकवल्या ... मी फक्त ऐकत होतो ... कारण हे नव्हते कि मला काही बोलायचे नव्हते कारण हे होते कि तिच्या कडे एवढे काही बोलण्यासारखे असयाचे कि माझे विषय ex .(१. नवीन ड्रेस घेतला , २. ऑफिस मध्ये नवीन मुलगी आली etc ) म्हणजे फारच शुल्लक वाटायचे ...म्हणून गप्प बसने का और सिर्फ सुननेका :)
आता ह्या "attitude -धारी" बालीकेने sun सेटचा मोमेंट नक्कीच enjoy केला होता पण मनात हा आनंद जास्त होता कि हा पहाड आमच्या group मधल्या एकानीही पार केला नाहीं तो फक्त तिने पार केला ह्याचा आनंद तिला गगनात मावेनासा झाला होता. हिमालय मध्ये जी खूप मोठी शिखरे असतात त्यांना त्यांचा hight नुसार नावे असतात म्हणून तिने ह्या पहाडाला "4142 point " असे नाव दिले , ह्याचा अर्थ त्या पहाड़ाची hight 4142 mts
होती असे नव्हे ही आमची eng कॉलेज मधली रोल numbers आत्ता त्या जागेचे नाव झाले होते .आंपण परत इथेच भेटायचे असे ठरऊन आम्ही खाली चालयला सुरवात केली.
मित्रांनी आमचा चांगलाच पान उतारा घेतला उशीर झाला होता सगळे जन ओरडत होते पण आमच्या दोघांच्याही काना मधून एकही शब्द आत जात नव्हते , कारण त्या अवघड ट्रेक ची विजय आजूनही आमच्या डोक्यात दरवळत होती.
मी जेव्हा हे घरी सांगितले तेव्हा आईने " फक्त तुम्ही दोघेच तिथे होतात ?" असा प्रश्न ज्या दीर्घ श्वासात विचारला त्या नंतर लक्ष्यात आले कि आईला हे सगळे नाहीं सागितले असते तरी चालले असते म्हणजे "आम्ही सिंहगड ला जावून आलो " एवढे सुद्धा चालले असते.
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