Failure !!!

FAILED - is some kind of remarks which many of us might have got in all walks of life , let it be studies , friends , profession,life,relationships,goals,aspirations,marriages & love.

I was really pondering on the thought

why do we consider Failure a negative emotion ?

Why people commit suicide after failing ?

What is that looses a perfectly balance people to take such a extreme step?

This questions really strangled me from a long time and I tried to find the answer

I have also checked the Wikipedia meaning of the word which says

"Failure refers to the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, and may be viewed as the opposite of success"

Oxford defines it as "Lack of success"

I have always felt Failure is nothing but how you look at it , failure is defined and created by us and can be overcome by ourself only.

The most serious form of failure are people who commit suicide , I can understand the pain they might be going through when some one is a University topper in 12th std and fails in the 1st year engg. exams , all the glory is bitten to dust .

or when some one is rejected in love , some one looses every member of his family in tsunami , some one looses his limbs in a accident , There are instance when you have no where to go , no where to show up , no where talk to , no shoulder to rest your head and cry . I agree any crappy note on failure just like I am writing now will NOT help you to get out of your pain , because that pain is very special to that person who is going through it .

I feel the greatest defeat a human being can get is from himself , no one can defeat you unless you accept the other won.

I have seen two kinds of people in my life

1. Those who try and fail

2. Those who do nothing still they fail

The first ones are people who will try get a label of "FAILED" on their forehead tell to 10 more people that I failed and move to next target they want to achieve , however this kind of people are rare in numbers who celebrate their defeat or failure.
I feel bad for people who do nothing in life still they fail because of circumstances,emotions,peers, or some one near and dear ones. The message straight would be to get in line try thinking out of the box leave people places and things that make you vulnerable. There is never end to things they just keep transforming from one state to another any science student can get this i hope.
Its not always the critics who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena , whose face is marred by dust,sweat and blood, who strives valiantly,who errs and comes short again and again,who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy cause,who at best knows achievement and who at the worst if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

I feel if we give people freedom to innovate, the freedom to experiment,the freedom to succeed , then you must also give them freedom to fail.
Not many have the courage to discuss their failure in public millions of dollars and countless hours invested in a joint operating system project with IBM that was discontinued led to the operating system windows NT.

Dont Worry Be crappy n Be happy.